Uncomfortable Feelings
Most of us have tried everything possible throughout our lives to manage, handle, control, compartmentalize, eradicate, transform, understand, analyze, dismiss, deny, ignore, disassociate from, explain, justify, intellectualize, spiritualize, and/or any other way to deal with our painful and upsetting feelings and emotions.
Feeling uncomfortable feelings is an essential and important part of the journey to reclaiming and reawakening our whole, vibrant, and powerful potential. These painful and sometimes unbearable feelings do not define or diminish us. We are infinite beings of Pure Love in which these feelings appear and disappear. Opening ourselves to feeling all our feelings and emotions brings us greater self-awareness, develops our intuition, gives us more strength, resilience, and compassion, and a host of other wonders that bring power, light, and miracles to us every day.
Many of us think and hope that there is a goal or an ‘end state’ of never having painful, unpleasant feelings or emotions ever again. There is no such end state. We are continuously experiencing life in the fullness of ourselves. And, we have the capacity to build our resilience so that we learn from these emotions instead of trying to get rid of them. The more we become familiar with them, the more they inform us, and even empower us. And the more we learn to feel everything, and activate our Inner Resources, the more we will raise our frequency, bring more happiness into our lives, and support a Higher Consciousness Humanity.
When we have uncomfortable, painful feelings, we can fall into belittling ourselves with self-judgment and abusive negative self-talk. This can lead to inner confusion, feeling ashamed or guilty, or being afraid. Any form of self judgement has no place and should be completely eradicated, you don’t need to listen to that voice in your head. You have the power of your focus to choose what you pay attention to, it takes courage and determination to stop listening to that voice in your head. With regular and consistent practice, and by redirecting your attention elsewhere it will go away.
We can feel all our feelings with curiosity and loving kindness towards ourselves, while feeling our Source connection. And without cycling through our stories, or analyzing our life or childhood, and without any self-attack, we then discover that what we thought we couldn’t deal with miraculously reveals the unexpected, and unveils beauty, healing, compassion, and self-empowerment.
You are welcome to find out for yourself.
Use the guidelines below to experience this transformation.
Listen to the Guided Inner Journey, Healing Your Emotional Body by Bhavani.
Let’s Begin:
We encourage you to keep a journal of your explorations because writing down your insights is very helpful. So grab a journal or pad of paper.
1. Feel your body, take a few deep breaths, and settle into this present moment. Keep feeling your body and breathing to stay grounded and centered throughout this process.
2. Bring curiosity, gentleness, and kindness to yourself.
3. Be open to your current experience, whatever it is. Allow yourself to feel whatever is happening, just being curious about whatever you feel, whether it’s fear, or anger, or even hatred, etc. It’s ok. Whatever you are feeling, it’s ok. You are just feeling these things, not acting them out.
4. Acknowledge the specific feeling(s) / emotion(s) currently being felt. Write down the specific feeling(s) / emotion(s) in your notebook or journal. Allow yourself to drop into and feel your current experience fully. Do your best to set aside any internal explanation or justification showing up in your mind. Just notice what you are feeling. Keep breathing. Write down and describe how it feels in your physical body and what emotions you are feeling in your emotional body. For more support, take 5 deep breaths and then continue.
5. Take your time, go slowly, and be patient with yourself. Stay relaxed and keep track of your breath. While remaining curious, notice what happens and what is changing in your current experience, as things always change. Notice if there is any interesting imagery showing up for you. Take note mentally, speak out loud, and / or write down what’s happening in detail.
6. Settle into your experience and keep feeling, sensing, and being curious about it. What do you notice happening in your body? Where in your body do you feel things? Do you notice anything changing? Describe what you are feeling to yourself, out loud, or write it down. Remember to resist the urge to analyze, justify, or explain things in your mind, or narrate the story of what happened or why. Keep feeling and noticing what’s happening physically and emotionally, and with any imagery, and write it all down.
7. Keep feeling your body and watching your breath. You can also notice how old you feel and if a younger part or identity shows up. Your younger identity may have feelings to share with you. Give your younger identity the freedom to speak, share, and express all their feelings. Take your time and write it all down. Remember, it’s a process. Be gentle with yourself.
8. Bring compassion and forgiveness to yourself and your younger part or identity (if present.) Unconditional compassion and forgiveness are healing pathways that lead to emotional wellness. Notice what changes occur in your body, in the imagery you may see, and in the level of intensity you feel. Write down what you are noticing. You may have an “Aha!” moment. You can write about that too! (Don’t worry if you don’t have one.)
9. You can also bring in any Inner Resource that would positively support you and your younger identity and raise your frequency. Feel free to check the list of Inner Resources and find the one(s) that will best empower you right now.
10. Take a few more slow, deep breaths and see how allowing yourself to feel even these uncomfortable feelings can bring you more compassion, resilience, and trust in yourself. For added support, take 5 deep breaths.
This is courageous and powerful work. Congratulate yourself for being willing to explore these uncomfortable feelings.
Download Feeling Uncomfortable Feelings Worksheet
We recommend revisiting this exploration as and when any difficult feelings / emotions show up.
For more support: Peace Meditations; The UPLIFTer Playlist; 7 Days of Joy; Activating Your Inner Resources; Higher Consciousness Humanity; Deepen in Love; The Power of Your Focus.
Abandoned, Anger, Anguish, Anxiety, Ashamed, Belittled, Betrayed, Controlled, Cheated, Deceived, Depleted, Depressed, Despair, Desperate, Devastated, Disgusted, Dishonoured, Disrespected, Self-Doubt, Drained, Dread, Embarrassed, Exhausted, Excluded, Failure, Fear, Forsaken, Fragile, Frustrated, Furious, Grief, Guilt, Handled, Hatred, Hopeless, Humiliated, Hurt, Ignored, Impatient, Inaccessible, Inadequate, Insecure, Irritated, Isolated, Jealous, Lacking, Listless, Lonely, Loss, Manipulated, Neglected, Nervous, Offended, Overwhelmed, Pain, Panic, Pathetic, Rejected, Remorse, Resentment, Sadness, Shame, Shattered, Shock, Sorrow, Spent, Stressed Out, Stupid, Suffocated, Suffering, Taken Advantage Of, Terror, Unloved, Unlovable, Unworthy, Unsafe, Unseen, Upset, Used, Vacant, Violated, Weak, Weary, Woe.
It’s hard to feel any of these, but it’s worth it … Explore the guidelines above.
Please find out for yourself.
These guidelines are not a substitute or replacement for therapy. Please consult a licensed therapist if you are having strong, overwhelming negative feelings and emotions.
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Any painful feeling you let yourself feel with curiosity and kindness to yourself provides the very medicine that seems to be missing. It’s almost as if our simple awareness is a universal miracle that turns anything it touches into beauty.
– E. Scott MacInnis
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Curiosity is our natural ability to look at things with fresh eyes. As we put aside opinions, concepts, projections, and expectations: we become available to experience this moment with the wonder and innocence of a child.
Being curious brings us into a natural, open, and vast space to explore: “What is this?” “What am I experiencing?” “What am I feeling?”
4. Bring more awareness to what you are feeling. Focus on your felt experience and the qualities of the Inner Resource as you embody it. Resist the habit to analyze. Simply feel your body and emotions.
5. Be open to your current experience, whatever it is, without judgment. Just ride the wave of the experience.
6. Remember that the quality of your attention and what you are feeling are more important than the content. Notice how your attention changes, waxing and waning, growing stronger, and sometimes getting distracted. No worries, simply bring your awareness back to the moment, take a deep breath, and focus on the Inner Resource.
7. Become familiar with the feelings and sensations of the Inner Resource you have chosen. Feel what is showing up in your physical body and your emotional body. Be curious to discover how this Inner Resource will support you in your life, to be who you really want to be, and feel how you really want to feel. It is through feeling the Inner Resource that you activate the frequency of it.
1. Feel your body.
2. Relax your shoulders.
3. Choose a word that makes you feel peaceful, such as om, peace, or love.
4. Inhale slowly while mentally saying the word you chose. Pause before starting the exhalation.
5. Exhale slowly while mentally saying 1 with the first breath. Exhale saying 2 with the second breath, up to 5 or more.
Relax your body, and just be aware of how your body feels. Be curious about what is happening in your body. Without changing anything, just notice what you are feeling. Notice where you are feeling things in your body. Make yourself more comfortable if you’d like. Take a deep breath, and feel the sensation of aliveness and the energy of your body.
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