Sensitivity the Secret Superpower
Highly Sensitive People have so much to share.

I woke up abruptly, dazed and disoriented. It took me a few moments to get my bearings. It was light, definitely morning. I came to, slowly recognising that I wasn’t alone. As I turned my head, there was my daughter’s face less than a hands-distance away. She came in for a fierce morning cuddle, wringing me out like a bear.

I looked up to see my partner walking into the room, a slight look of concern on her face. As I saddled up in my bed, grunting with the effort of dragging my still-attached child with me, I asked my partner “What’s up?”.

“We were just having a chat about something that happened at school yesterday.” She replied.

My partner proceeded to relay the story that my daughter was being bullied at school for being a ‘cry-head’. Naturally sensitive, she struggles with loud noise and the past few days at school had apparently been pretty raucous. We were coming into the intensity of our sub-tropical summer. Cue overheated, overtired and overstimulated children. 

My daughter had fled from all the excitement during a lesson break. Overwhelmed, she had needed an emotional release and had gone to sit under a tree for a little cry. It was at this point that she’d been approached by a group of girls who had started calling her names and asking why she cried all the time. She lost it, sobbing uncontrollably until a teacher found her and comforted her.

“Stop Being So Sensitive!”

My own journey with sensitivity was one of both control and denial. I grew up in the 1980’s UK, still an era where one ‘just got on with things’, and ‘didn’t make a fuss’. I subtly learnt that ‘being sensitive’ was not a good thing. Crying, especially in public, was generally frowned upon. Bottling feelings silently encouraged. Any signs of ‘being emotional’ quickly judged as a form of weakness.

“…”I quickly learned to hide and disconnect from my sensitivity. Image: Jake Young

In my late twenties, I met my free-spirited partner. We got along great, bonding through yoga, healthy eating, and dubious 80’s music. What was not initially apparent, however, was the vast difference in our emotional landscapes. Although confident and outgoing on the surface, she was unknowingly a Highly Sensitive Person. I was still playing the role of a stoic British male. When arguments started, they would quickly spiral out of control. My logical and reserved sensibilities would butt against her emotional and acutely sensitive nature. Frustratedly telling my partner to “stop being so emotional”, and questioning “why are you crying?” was my norm. In hindsight, this was the worst reaction I could have had.

Over the years, I became more familiar and comfortable with my partner’s reactions, and with a few hiccups here and there, I became more competent at holding her through these times. We started a family, and over the ensuing years, I began to notice similar traits in our young daughter. After the playground incident, I decided it was time to get some answers.

The Sensitivity in Us All

The term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) was coined by research psychologist Elaine Aron in her book The Highly Sensitive Person. Based on years of clinical research, and with a strong desire to understand her own psyche, Dr. Aron theorised that approximately 15-20% of the population fall into the HSP category. Often genetically inherited, HSP is not a condition as such, but a set of traits. The degree to which a person will identify with the characteristics of being an HSP can lessen or increase over time. For example, our level of sensitivity can be strongly influenced by external factors, such as our upbringing, our living environment and our relationships with those around us.

Dr. Aron points out that everyone is sensitive to some degree. A moderate level of stress-response remains essential to our survival and part of our in-built fight-or-flight response. Many people who believe they are not sensitive are merely lacking awareness of this innate sensitivity, and often, as in my own case, it’s a result of a lifetime of cultural conditioning.

“…”Everyone is sensitive to some degree. Image: Semina Psichogiopoulou

Rather than seeing high levels of sensitivity as a weakness, Dr. Aron takes a more nuanced view. While acknowledging the challenges this brings, she also has identified how these traits played an important role in society. Extremely receptive to their environment and highly intuitive, HSP’s are very tuned to subtle signs, such as being able to sense danger, as well as the needs of the young, old and sick. Formerly HSP’s were our eyes and ears, our watchers on the lookout guarding our communities.

Being Highly Sensitive

Due to a high level of attunement, situations that seem reasonable to some can be easily overwhelming for those with a highly sensitive nature. Loud noises, bright lights, being suddenly put under pressure and being exposed to strong emotions from others are all examples of areas where a highly sensitive person can struggle. They can also react very strongly to simulants, becoming hyper-excited, and then quickly slump after consuming alcohol or caffeine, for example.

On the flip side, the refined sensitivity allows for a more keen awareness of subtle details, such as being able to spot mistakes. Before I knew this, I often admonished partner and daughter for being overly pedantic. It also allows for a more insightful perception of their own emotional landscape, and that of others. They are often highly empathetic and attuned to the needs of others. The desire to more easily deal with stress and live in harmony with their surroundings means they are often attracted to calming meditative and healing practices. 

Letting Go of My ‘Highly Sensitive’ Judgement

In western culture, traits like being tough, stoic & outgoing are often seen as ideal. Our stories are full of victims who are portrayed as weak, over-sensitive, introverted and vulnerable. As I can attest from my own struggle with stunted sensitivity, I have readily judged the higher level of sensitivity in others and labelled it as a weakness. I grew up with movies like Star Wars & Lord of the Rings that portray a more traditional ‘hero’s journey’ narrative. Traits like sensitivity and vulnerability must be overcome as part of the character’s journey of transformation.  

My own path of self-discovery has been to recognise it’s ok to be sensitive, authentically vulnerable and to shed the cultural imprints that have restricted my emotional growth. I am starting to trust the deep wisdom that can come from listening to my intuition, that innate knowing that is natural for highly sensitive people. It has not been effortless for me but I am slowly reprogramming my software with this new, more compassionate and empathetic coding.

“…”I am starting to trust the deep wisdom that can come from listening to my intuition. Image: Jeremy Bishop

This journey of opening has brought a more profound love and understanding of the magical gifts of my highly sensitive partner and daughter. Seeing my daughter being belittled for her tenderness has brought forward a strong desire to be part of rewriting this outdated narrative. I want to educate and tell new stories where our sensitivity and vulnerability are cherished and valued rather than judged and diminished. I have taken to telling my daughter that her sensitivity is one of her superpowers and greatest gifts to the world. Something she can embrace and show to the world, rather than hide it in a dark corner.

It has been difficult to let go of learned prejudices. It has taken strides in my understanding of acceptance and unravelling years of conditioning to appreciate that everyone, in varying degrees, can be open, sensitive and vulnerable. We all have our little quirks, be that highly sensitive or any other ‘labels’. It helps me to remember we are all human first and foremost and underneath it all, perfect just as we are.

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It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. – Jiddu Krishnamurti

Do you identify as being a highly sensitive person? Or do you have a highly sensitive person in your life? We would love to hear about your experience, the challenges and the beauty. How have you accepted the sensitivity in yourself and in others?

With love

Team UPLIFT

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References

https://hsperson.com/ https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/highly-sensitive-person-signs/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/communication-success/201711/24-signs-highly-sensitive-person
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Elisabeth Read-van't Veer
Elisabeth Read-van't Veer
1 year ago

How wonderful to read. I have struggled with this my whole life. Together with my overwhelming sense of “justice” I have not only had to deal with the HSP aspect but with the risks that I have taken by placing myself in harms way to protect others. I chose the wrong profession which placed me in a “man’s” world with a slow emotional death as a result. As the years passed and with the patience and love of my husband, who gets it, I have had to withdraw from most of society. I choose my friends very carefully. I surround myself with animals and nurture my plants and garden and I spend much time practicing gratitude.

I am so glad that you have realised we are not freaks, we just care so much, feel so much. The world at large has been taught that we are weak. WE ARE NOT. If we were we would probably all decide to leave the planet. How wonderful a man you are. So is my gorgeous partner.

Thank you for this article.

Patsy
Patsy
1 year ago

Yes both ny mother and i are highly sensitive persons. i have learned to sheild myself from negativity and embrace my sensitivity as a gift. It helps me be compassionate toward others abd feel their vibrations. I love helping people with love and understanding soo this is a good trait to have. Embrace it and listen to your intuition

Suzan B
Suzan B
1 year ago

I am a highly sensitive human with short term memory issues. I drive my husband crazy! Yet my sensitivity helps people feel good about being who they genuinely are. I have been told by friends,that my sensitivity helps them to open up and be real. People tell me that they trust me. Hooray to people being real about who they really are!

Rosalind Prosser
Rosalind Prosser
1 year ago

Thank you, thank you, thank you !! So affirming and confirming of what I am beginning to KNOW. And when this Knowing becomes collective and connective, it will radiate out from us, and resonate with others, and strengthen their ability to help bring about the letting go of the old and the growth of this new awareness. Life on and of earth is desperately in need of this. Thank you again.

Bill
Bill
1 year ago

Rosalind, Wonderful, you were posting as was I at the same time. If we can find one more who can embrace the power of sensitivity…We’ll have a movement!

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UPLIFT
1 year ago

So beautifully put Rosalind, thank you <3

Much love to you,
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Bil
Bil
1 year ago

Sensitivity I believe is the path to save the world. Conflicts have been taught that each side has the only correct answer. The US vs Iran an example. Sensitivity permits both in conflict to realize to “win” doesn’t mean the opposing position will need to lose. Sensitivity allows both positions to see more than just their side. When we attempt to eliminate sensitivity we create no room for understanding. When both sides “know” they are correct, no discussion occurs. Both positions stop listening. By chastising those who can be or are sensitive we shut down the possibility that we, in fact, have more than two solutions. In conflict, sensitivity provides the foundation for agreement. In conflict, Sensitivity is needed, to bring opposing opinions ( or the other facts) to find agreement and peace.

Diane Hamel
Diane Hamel
1 year ago
Reply to  Bil

Thank you. I love your insight.

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1 year ago
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That’s a great reflection there Bil, and very true! Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

Blessings,
Team UPLIFT

Meghan Essien
Meghan Essien
1 year ago

Good to know there are sensitive people out there. Shouldn’t be ashamed because Love rules the world!

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1 year ago
Reply to  Meghan Essien

Absolutely agree Meghan!:D

Love to you,
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Debbie
Debbie
1 year ago

I have dealt with being HSP my entire life but not knowing it was okay. Family and friends admonishing or making fun of me. My ex berated me for it while at the same time saying how much he loved that about me. He loved how emotional I got over beautiful things and nature, but the curse of it was how I felt pain in others easily. I carried it with me. I grieved over all the cruelty and atrocities of this world and felt them heavily. Wanting to avoid hearing or watching or reading news of horrible things, but at the same time feeling I had to know and grieve for the pain others and animals endured and be an advocate to put a stop to these things. I used to wish to be unfeeling but now I celebrate who I am and am grateful and thankful I am this way.

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1 year ago
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It is so wonderful to hear you have found love and acceptance for the way you are Debbie 🙂 It is truly a gift. Thank you for your share.

Much love,
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Kim Parke
Kim Parke
1 year ago

So much of this article I resonate with. My intuition was telling me long before my daughter was born that I was being “prepared” for something HUGE!

This couldn’t have been more accurate and here over 20 years later, my book about the experience and what I learned from it is published.

http://www.raisinghope.ca

A story I am ready to share with the world! Love out, people! Let’s all rise up in 2020.

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1 year ago
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Thank you Kim, well done you 🙂

Much love and blessings on your journey,
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Linda JV
Linda JV
1 year ago

Thank you for this well written article, that I’m sure it will assist many who are coming to realise, it’s a blessing to be sensitive, a valued emotion when they look back at a road travelled and the lessons learnt, the many hurts that were endured, feeling like the odd one out, not fitting in, even in their own families (the black sheep of the family). The journey to understanding who I was, why I often cried with no seeming trigger point (very embarrassing as a teenager), crying whilst talking to people/strangers, the tears would be streaming down my face. Why I couldn’t cope in stressful situations/deadlines/exams etc, but could in an emergency (act very calm and logically ensuring the emergency was dealt with, this came naturally). This journey to understanding the value of my sensitivity has taken 60 odd years…being called many names along with way, leaving work colleagues unable to help when at 30 during a particular stressful period when I needed to be strong at home, I cried and sobbed for hours. Feeling the pain of many over the years, the earth, the animals. Some days I just needed a hug within giving an explanation why (but couldn’t ask for what I needed . I’m now that person who understands on a deep level, opening up to this valuable gift, the nature of my work I can greet and say goodbye with a (((hug))), listen without comment and be there when needed.
Bless all humanity and all forms of life. Each person has a unique skill, (we are all needed) when they find that skill and passion then coming into service, this beautiful world will change.

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1 year ago
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Thank you for your beautiful and honest share Linda. We too hope that other HSP like yourself out there can find some solace and self-acceptance through this article. We’re happy you have found that for yourself, despite it taking a while. And you’re so very right – we are all needed 🙂

Thanks again for your blessings. Much love to you on your journey also.

Team UPLIFT

Tess
Tess
1 year ago

I felt like I’d finally come home when I read this article. Someone finally understood me. All my life Ive struggled to fit into the world. I know now what I am, I have a label, “Im a HSP” and Im proud of it! What is normal anyway? None of us are normal, we just need to be accepted and respected.
Im planning to become involved with the homeless, its been a calling Ive had for many years. I know it will be confronting, and I know ill feel their pain, however I also know that I ‘need’ to do it. Hello all my fellow HSP’s, Im so glad to meet you!

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1 year ago
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Hello Tess, we’re so glad to meet YOU! It is so heartwarming to read this Tess, we are so happy the article helped you to understand and accept yourself a little more 🙂

Much love to you and enjoy your journey helping the homeless! I’m sure it will be rich with love and growth 🙂

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Ann Marie
Ann Marie
1 year ago

Thank you for the lovely article! I always thought my sensitivities were a gift in spite of my world of people telling me I needed to more like them. I liked being me, now I can see the real problem; I was surrounded by people who were caught up in comparisons and judgements of others to avoid looking at themselves first. The more I became accepting of myself, the easier it was to choose the type of friends that had their own self acceptance and had no need to change the people around them. More and more self accepting people show up in my life these days, and I don’t bond with all of them, but I appreciate the ones I work with daily and keep appreciating the ones I am close to. I no longer try to fit in or care to. I feel for those I meet who lack sensitivity because that is a program they were taught, and yet I thank them for teaching me to be and appreciate myself.

Shantnu
Shantnu
1 year ago

Whilst I read this with a quiet understanding, I feel a sense of sadness that the writer’s first point of reference was not his parents,or siblings but a book.
Books often have a way of complicating everyday emotions into academic/research terminology.
I do value books, but with caution.
If we are to delve into wisdom from self experiences and explorations, a different dialogue may ensue.
Being as authentic as possible and remaining within a framework of self acceptance has taught me many things.
Best wishes
Shantnu

Saran Lauwers
Saran Lauwers
1 year ago
Reply to  Shantnu

Thanks Shantnu for your wisdom. For me its both: the books and the practice.

Kathleen Babcock
Kathleen Babcock
1 year ago

As a highly sensitive person I found myself in my work environment being a leader “in bringing conflicts to the table”. Although this was difficult and seemed to be the opposite of what I as a highly sensitive person would do,my reason was a need to end the insidious back room conflict that flourised. I wanted us all to move to a position of more harmonious relationships and indeed to get on with the work we were meant to be doing. So I don’t think my colleagues saw me as a highly sensitive person but more as someone comfortable with conflict which was really not true

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1 year ago

That sounds like a challenging position to have been in as a HSP Kathleen, but well done for doing it for the sake of all involved. I hope you’re able to find a way to foster harmony in your workplace that is more nourishing for yourself too.

Much love on your journey< Team UPLIFT

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UPLIFT
1 year ago

Thank you for your feedback Shantnu, it is valued. You make a valid point, leaning too heavily on research and books can defer the growth that comes from real-life exploration and experience. That said, I believe research has its place and can also complement our exploration. Particularly when navigating situations we are unfamiliar with and when we don’t have people around us that can guide us and share their knowledge, which I believe is the case here.

Perhaps balance is the key 🙂

Much love to you on your journey,
Team UPLIFT

Saran Lauwers
Saran Lauwers
1 year ago

Thanks Kathleen. I know this. That was also my role in one team I was in. The problem was, that nobody supported me during these meetings, but afterwards they came to me and said, that I was right. I left this team. For me its better to start my own firm. I did it 2 times and it was very succesfully. Now I am 69 and in pension. I still have a little job, cause my pension is to low. I started to be a cabdriver. But in 2 firms it was not good for me. Now I found a good company and I am still there. In my free time, I do, what pleases me. Like being here.

Vivienne McKenzie
Vivienne McKenzie
1 year ago

It took me almost 60 year to understand and embrace the sensitivity that I was criticised for as I was growing up.
I will be 71 this month and I am grateful for the gift of understanding and compassion I am able to share with people who are in need and suffering, both physically and emotionally. However, I now find it hard being an HSP, especially as we watch the daily news with all the horrors that we were shielded from years ago. I can no longer watch the (necessary) constant coverage of our catastrophic fires on the TV screen, as Australia burns. My heart is breaking for the farmers, and ALL the human loss and suffering, as well as the unbelievable loss of animal life on this scorched earth.
And I sensitively ache for my small, young grandchildren and their parents, who will grow up in this very troubled world, lead by dangerous men who care more about power and money than human life.

My apologies for showing such a high degree of negative sensitivity today.

Saran Lauwers
Saran Lauwers
1 year ago

Thanks Vivienne for sharing. Its the media, who do this. I stopped looking TV and reading papers. Its a tactic, that they bring us only the bad news. That makes us down and more easily to manipulate. I concentrate and read many good news. Thats also in our beautifull world. Theres so much of it. We live in the most peacefull time ever. That is my truth. Good luck my dear.

Miliyon
Miliyon
1 year ago

Thanks for helping me

Saran Lauwers
Saran Lauwers
1 year ago

My tears are very quickly there, but I know, where I can let them flow and where not. Thats for me very important. My ex-wife feels in a group the emotions and sometimes starts to cry at first and then others join. Thats a big gift. I also feel the emotions in a group. I learned that over “transparente Kommunikation” from Thomas Hübel. Its a great pleasure to come to that. I also feel it in the internet. In Skype or Facebook. When possible, I cheque, what I feel. One day I was in a group and the middle finger from my left hand started to feeling hurt. I reported that and one guy said his finger had being hurt for a while and was hurting now. We all have this gift in us. Its lost and we can learn it again. It helps to come to a better communication.

Kathy
Kathy
1 year ago

I have been sensitive all of my life, and at times found it a great assett (choosing a “helping profession” for graduate school and working for 30 years as a speech therapist). I learned that I need a quiet space to work and complete documentation. Finding and implimenting emotional boundaries has been challenging and I have worked with a therapist to help me honor my “need to say “no” in order to stay healthy. I discovered art classes at the age of 50 and enjoy painting in a hroup setting as well as by myself. Right now I am dealing with grief (my dear 23 year old daughter died in April) and an unstable work situation, along with the realization of how anxiety related to “family issues stemming from childhoodd” continues to influence my responses to life’s challenges, mainly the loss of loved ones and economics related to scaling down on work-hours. I have found that I crave organization and stability at times like these, but also need to “pace myself” and have “rest breaks”. In other words, when shaken up, I can help myself by focusing on the people and activities that help me find emotional balance.

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1 year ago
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Thank you for sharing so vulnerably Kathy. Our deepest love to you for the loss of your daughter, and acknowledgement of your courage to share your story.

Love to you,
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1 year ago
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Jackie Grace
Jackie Grace
1 year ago

Such beautiful heartfelt spirit in all of you. I could feel everyones strength and struggles as I recognise myself in the words. I want to post this article to everyone so we can be better understood. Thank yew all.

Lea
Lea
1 year ago

Thank you for the boldness you show up with and speak up with. Every day of my life i have to overcome shame and blame to stand up for and speak for the vulnerability that lives and flows through me. i too was born this way and am starting to believe that we simply are the softest most sensitively attuned ones in a group who have themselves the task of overcoming shame and blame in order to represent this “voice”. Almost every time i dare to be myself i am deeply relieved that it is serving others around me too who have been holding up a shield protecting themselves from the humanity of others and ultimately the humanity within themselves. Humanity is in fact both vulnerable, deeply sensitive and attuned to the periphery – if we dare to be present to that place within ourselves, and then hold that presence in a group (much more difficult of course), we give everyone in the room the permission to touch that part of themselves and wow, all is then possible. Thanks for sharing, deeply grateful for your article!

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1 year ago
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So eloquently put Lea! Thank you for sharing your own vulnerability. We hear you. And we hope this gives you a little more courage each day to share that voice of yours because it is so worthy of being heard 🙂 Thanks for reading.

Much love to you on your journey,
Team UPLIFT

Dinesh
Dinesh
1 year ago

IDK why but i’m really over sensitive. And, i can’t hide it either. Still i’m rational. Even though I don’t seem to care about things or people’s opinion, subconsciously i care about it a lot. My heart beat increases by a lot and My whole body shivers. After that i can’t keep my rationality. I always say i don’t care about people around me but when i don’t get the same importance as i give them i lose my temper and all.

Just, how to not overthink? i just remember what they did wrong. Also, i regret things i did wrong. Help!!

i’m really different than others around me and i can’t adjust with people, not even my family, relatives and friends. How to solve this??
Help!!!!

Dinesh
Dinesh
1 year ago
Reply to  Dinesh

Also, I can’t bring to believe anyone. Not even my parents, family, relatives, family and all.
What to do??

Pawel
Pawel
1 year ago
Reply to  Dinesh

Hi Dinesh, feels like a mask on you in form of that ‘rational/ logic/ stoic persona’ where in reality there is a lot of emotions inside and I don’t blame you here for being confused…
I grew up in a family where people used emotions to look at others with superiority, that was a weakness (well, right now I can see that they were as blind about their sensitivity as those who showed their emotions more often but couldn’t explain why they felt that one). For years I’ve been working in environment that support black&white processes so learned to hide my emotions with time.

Till the moment where my partner tried to commit suicide and guess what? In such a moment all the logic could go f%$k itself – I couldn’t anymore ignore that flame inside and needed to learn, to embrace, to feel what was going on inside of me to help my partner out.

All of that can inspire you, but how to do it practicaly you might ask? No, you don’t have to wait for such awokening as I had.

Simply read a book ‘Home Coming’ by John Bradshaw and you’ll understand where that hiding comes from.

I need to warn you here, it might not be the most pleasant journey… it tooks me years and I’m still learning to process my emotions in a way that will serve me and those I’m with.

Dean Walsh
Dean Walsh
1 year ago

A clinical psychotherapist, who is a new friend, just sent me here. I’m autistic (Aspie) and ADHD but also, as she very rightly points out, very much HSP. I’ve just read this article twice! I’ve been struggling a lot lately and my friend cottoned on. Diagnosed Aspie and ADHD only 4 years ago and now this article speak volumes to me also. Almost like the final frontier for me in terms of coming to know myself. I’ve always been called “too sensitive” yet have so much to give others and see and sense details, potentially huge problems in the making like no-one else I know. I’m not a trained therapist but, through my embodied work (dance/embodied marine environmentalism / choreography/yoga) I’ve worked out how to help out so many people. And I love doing it. It fulfills me endlessly. Thank you so much for this article. I will also read the recommended book.

Henry J.C
Henry J.C
1 year ago

I literally feel that been an HSP is both a curse and a blessing. I almost know everything before they happens. And i can sense danger from people especially love ones and those whom I’m connected to emotionally. But when i try to warn them, they don’t take me serious. And if i don’t speak and things go wrong my conscience would not seize to torment me…
And many more i can say here.

rev. david lewis
rev. david lewis
1 year ago

This hit me right on the head as I have been so very sensitive all my life, I drove everyone crazy with my crying jaggs as a child. I could tell when things were not safe, knew things were going to get out of control before it happened and a mirriad of other sensitivities. Also was chastized for my crying as in “big boys don’t cry!!! This article will help me by giving it too others and the site address as well, It will help anyone within ear shot that I can give this too, Thanking you so very much for bringing these blessings too the internet and into my home and heart,
Rev. David Lewis

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Paul C Pritchard
1 year ago

Thank you David … may your sensitivity bring you closer to your soul. Many blessings Team Uplift

Mikki
Mikki
1 year ago

Hi I feel like its ingrates in me. No matter how hard I try to change it’s still there.

carol Forrest
carol Forrest
1 year ago

I’m really very relieved to read this and it allows me to be ok with my sensitivity. Its always been seen as a negative yet for me its a release and brings renewed energy. I do have a innate knowing of situations and people and not really heard.

As I am older now 68, Isee my sensitivity as healthy and works to my advantage.

Thank goodness your daughter has you as her father .

Thank you, x Carol

Alexandra
Alexandra
11 months ago

Thank you for this wonderful writing, growing up in Germany in the 70’s/80’s with hippie parents allowed me to live my sensitivity fully, after having a NDE in my early 20’s my sensitivity and empathy for other humans and non human creatures has even more intensified, which makes is often challenging in our society, looking at it from another perspective… as a superpower… I needed to read this today, thank you again, wonderful article,.
Are there any other NDE experiencers, who are often overwhelmed ?
Kindly Namaste
Alexandra

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11 months ago
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We’re so happy it found you at a good time Alexandra! 😀 I have not had an NDE but I am highly sensitive and easily overwhelmed and also found great solace in changing my perspective of this trait.

All the best on your journey <3
Team UPLIFT

Gigi
Gigi
10 months ago

I am a Highly Sensitive Person, probably since birth. During this journey I’ve been terribly bullied, scolded and told I’m sensitive more times that I can count. Bullied even as an adult in the workplace. I’m a person that notices things, the details or minutiae details that most don’t see. I can usually tell how a story or situation will play out, immediate or down the road. My emotions toward things can be beautiful or very painful.

I started to understand my sensitivity later in life. It’s really taken a long time and I spend a lot of time on my own, however I’m married. I’ve had some difficult times. I’m still challenged with certain parts of it but learning to undertake how to pull strength from it and how to rise above people who do not understand it, or see my sensitivity as a power, a gift. I’m learning to value myself more with this and to take care of myself better.

I noticed a lot of people with this have struggled their whole lives and I can understand it.

I’m really happy I found this site and really enjoy the posts.

Yunus
Yunus
9 months ago

I live a contradiction where I’m highly sensitive but repress expression of feelings as I learnt that expressing your feelings is not being strong.

To Rosa (author of article) I found great solace in the works of Gabor Mate and he provides much insight into parenting and also how our parenting style, and other life issues, are shaped by our own relationship with our patents.

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9 months ago
Reply to  Yunus

Thank you for sharing Yunus 🙂 Yes, we love Gabor Mate’s work and have shared some of it in other articles.

May you find ease in expressing your feelings.
Blessings,
Team UPLIFT

Anita
Anita
9 months ago

It can be tough to be HSP. I was born in the 50’s and always felt like something was wrong with me because that was what I was told over and over. Not only do HSP’s have a hard time handling the noise and craziness of the world but also the bullying which makes it all 10x more difficult.

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UPLIFT
9 months ago
Reply to  Anita

I’m sorry to hear that Anita, that sounds difficult indeed. I hope these days you feel more accepted and appreciated for your gift.

Much love to you and thank you for sharing <3
Blessings,
Team UPLIFT

Michelle Mitch
Michelle Mitch
7 months ago

First huge Thank you , for the conversation. Yes sensitive is truth, truth, non suppressed, for most folks is difficult, so multiple distractions are the normalized ways. Truth and sensitivity are hand and hand. When one terms “your too sensitive” are they referring to emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence is a wheel to understand, so our ways of seeing can allow for a bouyantantcy. Our whole society in the west, is build on the vibe of ego, driven by goals , aims and wins/ loses. Entertainments, in sports drill this to athletes, famious folks who make it to the top we know have battled to get there. Many stories of endurance and not enough of truth and fortitude. Wisdom , is stillness. Love in action , invests in listening differently, knowing the ego has, a place , but while becoming softer, the ego learns compassion. We all come from the same place a womb, a quite place…..,that loving container. When we enter the world our nervious system is so bombarded with stimuli, we learn to adapt. Normalizing Our nervous system , or numbing and dumb down truth. Our ability to see one another authentically especially during these times is a challenge., I , as a very sensitive person all my life ask a few Q’s To others who too are equal in energy….when I have a chance..I send love as a carpet to walk upon, roll it out for others who may tred it with “muddy loud boots” for when one delivers pure intentional love as a choice to move forward with, and another wishes to walk bare foot on that loving carpeted path……we can see clearly who leaves foot prints to clean up, or who leaves no mess. In my case I had an NDE early in life , perhaps this contributes to my loving sensitive self. That all said, we are all here to learn from one another. May the words of thy tougue learn to be sweet, vs bitter. One ounce of prevention is so worth a lb. of cure……..intentions are our future tool to bring our heart together vs apart. My the intention in your and other’s day become fused with love in action…….for in the end it is how we treat the each other which will be how we arrive at results. My profession is a massage therapist for 25 years, and have allowed my gift to aid other. It is a tool in my tool box that serves me well. Those who rather not learn to use I teatime ways, and listen , with silent hearts , are left behind, as they entangle to stir muddy waters all around. Note remember silent , and listen in English have the letters and meaning …go figure! ( pointed out by a 7 yr. old)

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