Despite the Anxiety, I Pitched My Tent

My Journey through the Fog of Depression

The rucksack was light, containing an ultra-lite one man (one woman) tent, a sleeping bag, few toiletries and a single change of clothes. As usual, it was not me that had made this decision. I’d had depression for a good nine months, so decisions were pretty much beyond me. But here I was, setting off from Luton on foot and wondering if I could really make it to Kings Lynn in five days.

It was the Universe that had decided this for me. Guided me into it, pushed me, shoved me and just wouldn’t let me be until I looked at the map and noted the name of the town that I would try to walk to. I knew that it wasn’t my decision because it wasn’t even a sensible time of year to plan a camping trip. It was early spring and the chance of frost was high.

No, it wasn’t my decision, but the walk and the thought of the challenge felt good and the exertion of walking up the hill brought relief from the physical sensations that come with depression. I thought about those feelings, how relentless they had been and how long they had lasted. My therapist’s voice echoed in my head, “they are only feelings and everyone has them”. I’d questioned that when she said it because there are feelings and then there are feelings; not everyone falls into the deep, dark pit of depression because of them.

The sun was shining as I headed over the hill. Luton sits at one end of the Chilterns, chalky downs stretching from Bedfordshire, across four counties, to the other end in Oxfordshire. This part of the Chilterns has crisscrossed paths, famously trodden by John Bunyan, but likely much older than that. Walking them made me feel connected to the earth and to the ancient ones.

Seems risky for a lone woman to take off on her own for a five-day walk. Not something I would have done when I was younger, having had the crime of being alone in a dark alley drummed into my female consciousness. My heart raced as I checked into the first campsite. It wasn’t so much that I was afraid because the only other people there were men, it was more that I was afraid of the judgement that my harsh inner voice pointed out “what will they think, crazy menopausal woman. Red face sticking out like a sore thumb?”.

Despite the anxiety, I pitched my tent and prepared for bed. Essential night-time attire included eyeshade, earplugs and a woolly hat that I pulled down over my nose which had been feeling decidedly cold. Outside, the men were fishing and drinking but I was soon oblivious, trussed up as I was in my three-season sleeping bag, plugs inserted firmly in my ears to seal out their chat. It was early when I awoke, relieved that my fellow campers were still sleeping as I packed up and headed off again.

The second day’s walking was different. For one, my feet were blistering and walking was not quite so enjoyable. Despite this, I relaxed into the walk, delighting in turning to see how far I had come. I had reached Cambridgeshire and the flat county stretched in front and behind. The day was bright and clear and I kept Sharpenhoe Clappers in my vision as a progress marker.

Mind clearing as I walked, making room for thoughts to come and go, and eventually to work their way to wherever they needed to go. Some turned into poems, something that had been happening since I had started therapy in October. As the thoughts worked their way out, the crucial ones stopped to form a verse, perfectly expressing and processing the deep-rooted trauma within.

As I set up camp the second night, I had to face facts. Determination and poetic musing had kept me going that day but I was not going to be able to walk much more, given the blistered state of my feet. With regret, I made the decision that the next leg would have to be by train. I put this plan into action with a one-way ticket to Littleport.

The plan paid off and my feet recovered sufficiently to walk again on day four. I had a choice, I could walk half a mile to the village (and half a mile back) to buy breakfast or I could head straight off, finding a shop on the way. I opted for the latter to avoid the extra mile. Being a townie, I had not anticipated just how rural Cambridgeshire would be. I had to walk for thirteen miles before I found somewhere to buy food. Lesson learned – it is always worth going the extra mile!

The final day took me to Norfolk and to Downham Market where I got another train to Kings Lynn. Once there I just sat in cafes. It didn’t matter which, as long as they had a charging point for my mobile phone. I sat in cafes and wrote. Wrote my thoughts. Wrote poems about my thoughts. Cried, thought some more and wrote poems about that too. The poems were sad, some funny, some incredibly insightful. I revelled in the time I had to indulge myself and the inner space I had created during my five-day walk.

I had one day left before catching the train home and decided to make the most of it with a seaside trip. Feeling nourished by my healing time, I climbed the stairs of the double-decker bus, excitedly claiming the front window seat.

The journey lasted an hour and in this mundane and humble setting, the Universe’s plan finally came to fruition. It came in the form of an old woman who sat in the seat opposite me. At first, I was annoyed, since I had been enjoying my own company too much. She started to talk and it was clear that she had mild dementia. Pleasant enough, she chatted away, with incoherent ramblings. Even before we set off, I realised that she had already told me at least three times that her mum had died when she was two. She repeated this refrain for the whole of the journey, each time countering it with “Oh no, it wasn’t that bad,” or “You just get on with it, don’t you?” Each repeated like the refrain of a stuck record that belied her protestations that all was okay.

As she spoke, it struck me that the guilt I had been feeling about disrupting my family system, and the guilt that I felt by not being “over it” yet were entirely misplaced. My mum had not died when I was two but she had left my childhood home (left me) when I was eight. I identified with the old woman. I too know what it is to be un-mothered, unloved. And now I knew that it wasn’t that I was defective, I just hadn’t properly processed my trauma because I didn’t want to rock the boat or be seen as someone who couldn’t cope.

And so the chance meeting with the old woman on the bus that day changed me, and the reason I think the Universe had a hand in it is that everything fell so very neatly into place, in a way that poetry or therapy or years of recovery had not. It may not have been exactly this day but it was certainly very soon afterwards. The fog began to clear and my year-long depression lifted.

BY Helen Vincent



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Ruth Nodel
2 years ago

that is so awesome that you did this sister! i love being on my own a lot to be adventurous and face my fears. that is so cool that you had that experience with the older lady, who showed up like you said from the Universe to help you heal ! we are all connected and it is so beautiful .
i need to share my story of an adventure i took a year ago on my own too. thank you for sharing this and being brave. right on sister !
blessed be and namaste

2 years ago

i has a quite a few troubling years in a row and found my life hadn’t met the picture I had for it. I’d invested all my life in other people, but great disappointment came, when nobody was there for me, in my crisis. I took it for as long as my logic could, stuffing my stunned emotions away. Nightmares, sleepless nights, alone. Then one day I yawned wide and deeply, stretched the body and sank into a plan to go camping. Me. For my soul to get its time for rest. Mind-body reconnection. Let Spirit and intuition rein for a while. i was scared, sure. Camping in the mountains, a woman alone.—But we HAVE TO test ourselves sometimes !— or our weaknesses envelope our lives. Cheers to this lady and her journey!💕

2 years ago

I hope to share this with my melanchaly teen son–to help lift his spirits is my hope and so he can reflect more easily on his point of view with more light than dark.

Alberto Aldana
3 years ago

sincronicity and magic are things only possible when living in love. Thanks for sharing the experience and congratulations for being.

Isla May
3 years ago

I love this article/story. I relate deeply with it. It resonates with me. I love being on the land and being present in it for healing and love and so much much. I felt Helen Vicents story and the telling of it to be real and real and more real. I would have loved being on that bus and hearing that true story from the old lady and seeing your inner self take it in and learn from it later. I love that story. Thank you for writing it Helen. Thank you for completing your wonderful five day journey which I see built on you bigger journey of life. I am a poet too. XX

kamir bouchareb st
3 years ago

good thank you

3 years ago

Super article

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