Wellbeing is something that is hard to define and yet we all have an understanding of what it is. It derives from how you feel about yourself and your life, whether things are going well, and how you cope with stress. Wellbeing changes over time and is influenced by every aspect of our lives, from close friendships to feeling that you belong and a sense of purpose.
Neuroscientist Richard J. Davidson, founder of the Center for Healthy Minds, is one of the world’s leading experts on the impact of contemplative practices, such as mindfulness meditation, on the brain. He says that wellbeing is not a static ‘thing’–but a set of skills that we can practice and strengthen, just like learning to play a musical instrument or ride a bike.
Wellbeing is fundamentally no different than learning to play the cello. If one practices the skills of wellbeing, one will get better at it.
Research reveals there are four areas of mental training that can significantly improve your wellbeing: Resilience, outlook, awareness, and generosity. “Each of these four is rooted in neural circuits, and each of these neural circuits exhibits plasticity,” explains Davidson. “So we know that if we exercise these circuits, they will strengthen.”
It’s easy to be content when things are going well but what about when we face hardship? I’ll never forget the moment when my mum told me that she had breast cancer. It is in times like these that we need the strong foundation of wellbeing to hold us up.
Practicing these four skills can provide the key to enduring change and increased wellbeing.
Resilience, or how quickly we recover from adversity, influences the amount of negative emotion that we experience. My mum was a doctor who cared for other people, the one who held our family together, and it was a shock to recognise her vulnerability.
Some people recover from a failed exam or loss of a job slowly, while others are able to rebound more easily from adversity.
We know that individuals who show a more rapid recovery in certain key neural circuits have higher levels of wellbeing. They are protected in many ways from the adverse consequences of life’s slings and arrows.
One of the ways that Davidson has found to improve your resilience is by regular practice of mindfulness meditation. It takes time to alter these specific brain circuits and you need many hours of practice before you see real change. “It’s not something that is going to happen quickly,” he says. “But this insight can still motivate and inspire us to keep meditating.”
Looking at Our Outlook
Whether it’s savouring the last bite of chocolate cake or enjoying a family holiday, a positive outlook on life increases our wellbeing. “I use outlook to refer to the ability to see the positive in others,” says Davidson. “The ability to savour positive experiences, the ability to see another human being as a human being who has innate basic goodness.”
Even people who suffer from depression show activation in the brain circuit underlying outlook, but in them, it doesn’t last—it’s very transient.
Here, unlike with resilience, research indicates that simple practices of loving-kindness and compassion meditation may alter this circuitry quite quickly, after a very, very modest dose of practice.
I couldn’t take my mum’s cancer away but I could be there for her, spend time holding her hand, and go for long walks together on the beach. I savoured every moment I had with her because I didn’t know how long it would last.
A recent study by Healthy Minds found that compassion training for 30 minutes a day for two weeks resulted not only in changes in the brain but also made it more likely for people to be kind and help others.
When we really focus on what we’re doing, and our minds are not wandering, we actually feel better about ourselves.
Researchers at Harvard conducted a study using an app, Track Your Happiness, that asked people three questions:
- What are you doing right now?
- Where is your mind right now? Is it focused on what you’re doing, or is it focused elsewhere?
- How happy or unhappy are you right now?
And they found that 47% of the time people weren’t paying attention.
Can you envision a world where that number goes down a little, by even 5 percent? Imagine what impact that might have on productivity, on showing up, on being present with another person and deeply listening.
To stop myself from falling into the fear of losing my mum, I used mindfulness again and again to bring me back into the present moment, to simply be there with her, and to deeply listen with an open heart.
Philosopher and psychologist William James, author of The Principles of Psychology, says the ability to repeatedly bring back a wandering mind is the root of judgment, character, and will. Mindfulness brings us back to the present moment and deepens our connection to ourselves and others.
The Effects of Generosity
When we act generously by volunteering at a homeless shelter or giving somebody a compliment, we become happier in ourselves. The ability to empathise, express gratitude and behave compassionately towards others are skills that can not only be learned, but also can make us feel happy.
There are now a plethora of data showing that when individuals engage in generous and altruistic behavior, they actually activate circuits in the brain that are key to fostering wellbeing.
It was so heartwarming to watch as my mum, who had spent her whole life taking care of others, was surrounded by her friends and family, who showed up with food and flowers, and took her every week for treatment.
Davidson explains that these circuits get activated in a way that is more enduring than the way we respond to other positive incentives, such as winning a game or earning a prize. We’re not creating something new when we engage in practices that cultivate kindness, but simply developing our capacity for compassion. Davidson says:
What we’re doing is recognizing, strengthening, and nurturing a quality that was there from the outset.
Shaping Our Brain
Davidson says that our brains are constantly being shaped wittingly or unwittingly–most of the time unwittingly. The science behind wellbeing as a skill makes “a kinder, wiser, more compassionate world possible.” What we know about neuroplasticity gives us the power to shape our minds with intention.
We have the opportunity to take more responsibility for the intentional shaping of our own minds and through that, we can shape our brains in ways that would enable these four fundamental constituents of wellbeing to be strengthened. In that way, we can take responsibility for our own minds.
I’m happy to say my mum recovered from her breast cancer and this year is celebrating 10 years in remission. Breast cancer made her re-evaluate her life; she stopped working so much and now spends more time at art classes and in the garden. She says her cancer came with a hidden gift that gave her permission to practice self-care.
By training our brain, we can create neural pathways for wellbeing, especially when we are faced with adversity. As Davidson says, “Happiness and wellbeing are best regarded as skills.” We just have to keep practicing.
Do you have any stories about how Resilience, Outlook, Awareness or Generosity have impacted your life? What are some ways that you practice creating wellbeing in your own life? We would love to hear in the comments below – after all, sharing helps us learn and grow together on our individual paths to realising our true potential.
In light and love,
Clear and precise..great article…thank you. Very inspiring also
We know there are lot of trending tariff plans and tariff war between telecom companies. Recent Trending tariff plan is Jio Rs.20 Recharge Plan. I hope you liked it.
Meditation has been my anchor for 27 years, without which I believe I would have regressed into depression. Two decades after recovery, I discovered neuroscience and how we have the innate capacity to rewire our neural networks and I remain fascinated and curious. If I’d known then what I know now about how our brains function, I believe that would have accelerated my recovery in partnership with daily meditation.
Wonderful article. I enjoy quite a few articles in every newsletter but this is the 1st paper to compel me to comment.
This article helped me find words to explain a lot of my actions that are viewed by many people as eccentric.
Like my sharing lunch every day with a homeless man I met at the local shopping center. It brightens both our days. I also get ribbed for complmenting telemarketers, for telling co workers thank you when they go the extra mile, they always look at me funny cause I’m the lowest one on the totem pole. And for so many actions and thoughts that I could never explain
Now I know to just tell them it makes me happy.
This is a fantastic article and encapsulates what I know in my own practice and teachings. Growing up in a home of violence and addictions, I was blessed to have been introduced to yoga (asana’s ) and meditation as an athlete. The skills that I developed as a young teen, those that helped me become a successful athlete, were the same skilss that helped me navigate my home life, pursue university education and maintain an open heart. These same skills matured over the years especially after I started to practice yoga in its fullness (8 limbs). When I was in a propane explosion, I was diagnosed with PTSD, lung blast, tinnitus and a truamatic brain injury which left my memory at 1.7%. My cognitive function was poor to say the least. My prognosis was poor and told that I would enter into early onset dementia.
At that time I had been practicing yoga and meditation for thirty years, and it is this combination that brought me back to health and vitality. I am a better person, and a strong teacher as a result of this journey. I tell all my students that these benefits are available to all, but it is a skill that needs to be practiced and established to see long term results. I continue to heal after eleven years! Om Shanti.
It is wonderful to learn from the research that our brain flourishes when we follow and practice basic virtue – compassion, generosity, …afterall, these aspects are the ones that make us call ourselves human.
I absolutely love this and it’s why I teach the same principles within my yin yoga & mindfulness classes. Such an inspirational article
This is a great article. I think that for some, simply reading it will give them permission to consider what is important to them and the hope that imperfect souls can begin to improve wellbeing with practice. I hope so!
Very attractive and informative! I really enjoyed it!